It is 7 a.m. on Sunday morning. I am tired and I am pissed all to bloody hell.
Because for the last month we have had people living above us who are noisy, inconsiderate, and have no intention or knowledge in how to raise their children.
I have ranted on this subject before on my Sistah in Scotland blog. See “Kids! Stop breeding!” and “Your child is a SLUT!” if you want to see other evidence of my opinion. Click on the links within the posts to read the articles to which they refer. Read the comments after the posts too. These posts are several years’ old now, but I stand behind my words.
The other day I had to bang on our neighbors’ door to make sure I was heard over the racket they were making. When the mother came to the door, she was all defensive, and when I told her to control her children, she looked at me like I was the crazy one!
“You try to control a seven and fourteen year old!” she complained to me as if it were some excuse.
When people say, “How dare you lecture me about raising kids when you don’t have any? You don’t know how it is! How dare you judge me or my kids?”
I tell them to call 1-800-BULLSHIT.
While you’re at it, check out Parenting Fails.
I have no children, but MY parents raised ME to be a RESPECTABLE CITIZEN. It is up to you to do the same with yours.
STOP trying to be your child’s best friend and BE THEIR PARENT!
I discovered a recent blog post on the NBC TODAY Show’s blog called “Discipline Dealbreakers: When to drop the friend who spanks, yells…or does nothing.”
In case you didn’t notice, that’s the sound of me being unimpressed. I suggest you take their little poll and view the results. You’ll see that it isn’t about yelling or spanking.
By the way, I am a fan of “My Parents Didn’t Put Me in Time-Out, They Whooped My Ass” on Facebook. I’m thankful for the switches, house slippers, belts, and bare hands that taught my butt to behave and I’m not ashamed of it.
You need to be an authority figure in your child’s life. You do this by being FAIR but FIRM. Children need boundaries and need to understand that they will be in trouble if they act a fool. Having your child’s RESPECT is more important than being their “best friend.”
Tell your child NO…and mean it!
I know the mother of these kids yells at them constantly. We can hear it. If they didn’t speak Portuguese all the time, we could recite verbatim. However, this mother is the type to say “no”…but not mean it. We know this because the word “no” is the only one we can understand.
When I hear mothers say, “I’m my daughter’s best friend. She tells me everything,”
I have to prevent rolling my eyes and reaching for a sick bag.
Your daughter tells you everything? Really? So you’d be comfortable if she were to come over for a chat and says, “You know, Mom? When I’m having sex with Jack and his father and they double penetrate me, it always aggravates my hemorrhoids. What should I do?”
If you can have frank, open discussions like that with your child…THEN I’ll believe you. If not, stop kidding yourself. Your child doesn’t tell you everything.
But if you ARE having those kinds of conversations…then you need to be beaten with a stick in my opinion.
Now excuse me as I reach for my sick bag.